Monthly Archives: September 2018

Be-Do-Have Paradigm



Mbe-do-have.jpgost People will do (take action), then in result they will get they want and at the end they because who or where they want to be.



The is true because we must “Be” before we can “Do,” and We can “Do” only to the extent which we “Are,” and what we “Are” depends upon what we “Think” – from Master Key System (Part one)

“Most people live their lives thinking, “If I want to have “X” in my life, then I need to do this. And by doing this, I’ll have what I desire, and then I’ll be able to be the person that I desire to be.” That is the Do-Have-Be paradigm. The challenge is, it doesn’t work. There is a paradigm that I have referred to before called the Be-Do-Have paradigm. The way that you truly create the life that you desire is by being that person first. Knowing who it is that you desire to be. By knowing that, by being certain of that, then you will do, what needs to be done, that will allow you to have what you desire.” –

Step back from your judgement


Difference-Between-Perception-and-Judgement-2-1024x682.jpgSo many of us have been taught that things are either right or wrong, good or bad and that everything is simply black or white. Without realizing it, we have been taught to place a value judgment on everything. And these judgments often have absolutely nothing to do with what is happening in the present moment. We create these value judgments about what is happening in the present moment based on our past experiences. When something happens we think to ourselves, “When X happened in the past Y was the result.” And we place a value judgment on that past experience that it was good, bad, exciting, frightening, orgasmic or traumatic. Then based on the result of that past experience we decide that we are going to judge this new experience as good or bad. Next time that situation comes up, or something similar, we attach that previous judgment directly to it. And other times we create judgments on future expectations without even knowing what is going to happen. With little to no information, we make presumptions or hallucinations about what we think the outcome is going to be.

Being a humble observer is about having the ability to step back and recognize that in reality, there is no good or bad. There is no right or wrong. That is simply a judgment that we have chosen to attach to an individual experience. As we become a humble observer we begin to realize that when something happens we have numerous options. We begin to see that it’s not what happens that matters, it’s what we do with it. What is important is how we apply that experience in our lives. What do we do in that moment as we move forward? Being a humble observer takes us out of “reactive” mode and allows us to respond in a healthy way.

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A few Relationship Quotes



“You can’t just give up on someone because the situation is not ideal. Great relationships are not great because they have no problems. They are great because both people care enough about the other person to find a way to make it work.” – Unknown

“Relationships end too soon because people stop putting in the same effort to keep you, as they did to win you.” – Unknown

“He can’t read your mind. So take a moment to let him know how you really feel.” – Stephen Speaks

“Apologizing does not mean that you’re wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego.” – Unknown

“Don’t talk, just act. Don’t say, just show. Don’t promise, just prove.” – Unknown

From Huffingtonpost


Change you Perception, Change the World


We often like to say “I’m going to change the world.” I’ve been a huge advocate of the saying for years but I’ve started to realize something.

The world is ALWAYS changing… every minute…. every second… the world changes. So when you think about it, every day we’re changing the world whether we know it or not. Every action and no action changes the world in some way.

What we should really be saying is “I’m going to change my perception of the world.” You see all we have are perceptions of the world. Just as someone can see the glass as half empty and another can see the exact same glass as half full shows us we live with nothing but perceptions of the world. These perceptions dictate our attitude and how we live. So if we change our perception of the world and start to see everything we have rather than don’t have, or everything we’re capable of rather than the excuses we can’t do something we’ll be seeing the world from a perspective that aims at making the world work. Once we see it, others will want to see it too.

From Ryan Coelho