So many of us have been taught that things are either right or wrong, good or bad and that everything is simply black or white. Without realizing it, we have been taught to place a value judgment on everything. And these judgments often have absolutely nothing to do with what is happening in the present moment. We create these value judgments about what is happening in the present moment based on our past experiences. When something happens we think to ourselves, “When X happened in the past Y was the result.” And we place a value judgment on that past experience that it was good, bad, exciting, frightening, orgasmic or traumatic. Then based on the result of that past experience we decide that we are going to judge this new experience as good or bad. Next time that situation comes up, or something similar, we attach that previous judgment directly to it. And other times we create judgments on future expectations without even knowing what is going to happen. With little to no information, we make presumptions or hallucinations about what we think the outcome is going to be.
Being a humble observer is about having the ability to step back and recognize that in reality, there is no good or bad. There is no right or wrong. That is simply a judgment that we have chosen to attach to an individual experience. As we become a humble observer we begin to realize that when something happens we have numerous options. We begin to see that it’s not what happens that matters, it’s what we do with it. What is important is how we apply that experience in our lives. What do we do in that moment as we move forward? Being a humble observer takes us out of “reactive” mode and allows us to respond in a healthy way.
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