Monthly Archives: April 2012

Dalai Lama issued eighteen rules for living.


At the start of the new millennium the Dalai Lama issued eighteen rules for living.

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three Rs: 1. Respect for self 2. Respect for others 3. Responsibility for all your actions.
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
8. Spend some time alone every day.
9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
15. Be gentle with the earth.
16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

Oprah’s Lifeclass Recap in Toronto


My friend went to Oprah’s Life Class in Toronto and I especially love he wrote at the end to his post.

“Until you heal the wounds of the past, you will continue to bleed into t he future.”

“Resentment is drinking your own poison and expecting the other to die.”

“Don’t ask what if, ask what now…”

Finally something cool my man Robbins said, “Life isn’t happening to you, it’s happening for you.”

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5 Ways to be Happier Now | URBANETTE Magazine


Who’s not interested in being happier?  But who’s got the time to think about it, right?

More and more we keep hearing about people doing The Landmark Forum, a three-and-a-half day personal development program that promises breakthroughs in relationships, communication, productivity, career and general satisfaction.

So what’s all the fuss about?

Urbanette Magazine asked four women who’ve done the program to share some of the Landmark Forum Education takeaways that have enhanced their quality of life and had them emerge, well… happier.

1 | Accept who you are and work it.

What if you gave up trying to hide what you consider flaws and just let ‘er rip?  That’s exactly what Katy Sullivan did, with extraordinary results.  Born without legs, the 31-year-old actress in Los Angeles had become very skilled at hiding the prosthetics she’s used all her life. It wasn’t until she did The Landmark Forum, however, that Katy had the courage to pursue her dream of being a runner. “I got to a new level of acceptance of who I am and living life from that place instead of trying to hide something that is part of me,” says Katy, who now competes at the top levels of Paralympic track by using carbon fiber prosthetics that are designed for performance, not appearance. “I’m now completely authentic about who I am,” she says.  “People look at me and appreciate me for the kind of person I am, not because they’re noticing I have a disability.”

2 | Separate your story from what really happened.

Consider that the quality of your life is determined only 1 percent by what happens, and 99 percent by how you react to what happens. And we do have some control over how we react.  What we don’t usually recognize: regardless of what circumstance we’re dealing with, we almost always add a conclusion to what happened, such as, “I’ll never be able to do what I really want to do,” or “I’m so mediocre.”  Even if we don’t say it out loud, this can start to become REAL, always there in the background coloring our thoughts, feelings and actions. What gives us power as individuals and as couples is separating what happened from our stories about what happened. Then you can create a powerful plan for how to move forward.  “As human beings, we tend to overcomplicate things,” says Katy, who learned to give up some of her own disempowering stories and conclusions.  “If we can step back for a moment and look at fears and other emotions for what they really are, it makes things less scary.  It makes things achievable.”

3 | Get more committed to being happy than being right.

We humans are hard-wired to being right – who hasn’t sacrificed good will and harmony in a relationship at some point because we just had to underscore how right we were about something?  That automatic impulse is worth taming, says Josselyne Herman-Saccio, 44, a Landmark Education communication expert who works as a personal manager in New York City. “I’ve been with my husband almost 18 years, and we’ve had a total of four fights,” she says.  “That’s because we both agree that it’s more important to be happy than be right, so we don’t get stuck in our view with each other.”  When you remind yourself that “winning” and insisting on being right can cost love, affinity and happiness, it’s easier to consider others’ points of view as being as valid as your own. 

4 | Get present to what really matters to you.

In our rush to accomplish everything on our to-do lists and meet all our obligations and responsibilities, it’s easy to overlook the things we care about most.  Take a few minutes to jot down a top-of-mind list of things that really matter to you.  You’ll find the clarity that results has you noticing and grateful for aspects of your life that are inspiring and satisfying.  What’s more, you can look to see what actions you could take to further some goals and dreams that are near and dear to your heart, but which have been ignored or put on a back burner.  “Many of us take our lives for granted,” says Joy DeMichelle, an entrepreneur and actress who lives in Los Angeles and who considers health, imagination and the ability to create among those things that matter most to her. “I believe that we all have inspired dreams that are waiting for us to step into and make a difference with this life we have been blessed with.”

5 | Give credit to others.

One of the things that Dawn Duffy, 43, got out of The Landmark Forum was the power of acknowledgement, and she now makes it a point to regularly express her appreciation for the difference other people make in her life.  The bonus: When you focus on acknowledging someone else for their role in making your life great, you almost can’t help but be happy. “It never gets old and always creates a very powerful place to operate inside,” says the former research scientist who is now married with four children and loves being at home with her family. “When you acknowledge the source of any power you have versus taking credit for it, you’re left with more power, and so are they. Everyone wins.”

For more information about The Landmark Forum and Landmark Education, visit

Article is from URBANETTE



In the video, Werner explains Responsibility.  I thought I knew what he meant when I first watched it but I don’t agree with him. How can someone got abused and still take full responsibility for what happened.  He is the victim.  I understand if you play the victim,  you won’t be able to stand up and move on but if you take responsibility for what happened and since whatever happened already happened and there is nothing you can do about it so you might as well take full responsibility and be stronger. Well this morning I watch another Youtube clip on Werner and now I got the deeper understanding of what he meant by taking responsibility.

Responsibilty – when we say people are responsible, what it means is that they are responsible not for their circumstances but for the experience of the circumstances.



Oh, the Places You’ll Go!


Oh, the Places You’ll Go!
Dr. Seuss

Today is your day.
You’re off to Great Places!
You’re off and away!

You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
You’re on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the guy who’ll decide where to go.

You’ll look up and down streets. Look ’em over with care.
About some you will say, “I don’t choose to go there.”
With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
you’re too smart to go down any not-so-good street.

And you may not find any
you’ll want to go down.
In that case, of course,
you’ll head straight out of town.

It’s opener there
in the wide open air.

Out there things can happen
and frequently do
to people as brainy
and footsy as you.

And then things start to happen,
don’t worry. Don’t stew.
Just go right along.
You’ll start happening too.


You’ll be on y our way up!
You’ll be seeing great sights!
You’ll join the high fliers
who soar to high heights.

You won’t lag behind, because you’ll have the speed.
You’ll pass the whole gang and you’ll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly, you’ll be best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

Except when you don’t.
Because, sometimes, you won’t.

I’m sorry to say so
but, sadly, it’s true
that Bang-ups
and Hang-ups
can happen to you.

You can get all hung up
in a prickle-ly perch.
And your gang will fly on.
You’ll be left in a Lurch.

You’ll come down from the Lurch
with an unpleasant bump.
And the chances are, then,
that you’ll be in a Slump.

And when you’re in a Slump,
you’re not in for much fun.
Un-slumping yourself
is not easily done.

You will come to a place where the streets are not marked.
Some windows are lighted. But mostly they’re darked.
A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin!
Do you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in?
How much can you lose? How much can you win?

And IF you go in, should you turn left or right…
or right-and-three-quarters? Or, maybe, not quite?
Or go around back and sneak in from behind?
Simple it’s not, I’m afraid you will find,
for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.

You can get so confused
that you’ll start in to race
down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
and grind on for miles cross weirdish wild space,
headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place…

…for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or the waiting around for a Yes or No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for the wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.

That’s not for you!

Somehow you’ll escape
all that waiting and staying
You’ll find the bright places
where Boom Bands are playing.

With banner flip-flapping,
once more you’ll ride high!
Ready for anything under the sky.
Ready because you’re that kind of a guy!

Oh, the places you’ll go! There is fun to be done!
There are points to be scored. There are games to be won.
And the magical things you can do with that ball
will make you the winning-est winner of all.
Fame! You’ll be as famous as famous can be,
with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.

Except when they don’t
Because, sometimes they won’t.

I’m afraid that some times
you’ll play lonely games too.
Games you can’t win
’cause you’ll play against you.

All Alone!
Whether you like it or not,
Alone will be something
you’ll be quite a lot.

And when you’re alone, there’s a very good chance
you’ll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.
There are some, down the road between hither and yon,
that can scare you so much you won’t want to go on.

But on you will go
though the weather be foul.
On you will go
though your enemies prowl.
On you will go
though the Hakken-Kraks howl.
Onward up many
a frightening creek,
though your arms may get sore
and your sneakers may leak.

On and on you will hike,
And I know you’ll hike far
and face up to your problems
whatever they are.

You’ll get mixed up, of course,
as you already know.
You’ll get mixed up
with many strange birds as you go.
So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life’s
a Great Balancing Act.
Just never foget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.

And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)


be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O’Shea,
You’re off the Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So…get on your way!



“One of the things I am really sure about is nothing will make you happy. Very few things I am really sure about. That is one of things I am really sure about. Nothing will make you happy. It may give you give you a jolt. It may make you gleeful but it isn’t going to make you happy. What does that mean nothing will make you happy.

It means what it says: there is no thing that’s going to make a person happy. Most people think gee when I graduate then life will be great. No. You graduate that’s wonderful but life still ain’t great. When I get married then life will be great. Not true. Well when I get divorced then it will be ok.  Or when I get promoted, whatever it is, when I get a new car. When I get a chance to go on this new vacation… All of you have to do is to watch people on vacation and you can see very clearly vacations do not make people happy. No, no, no.

Most people live their lives working towards something, working for something, that they think is going to make them happy. And it’s really the Peggy Lee song “Is that all there is?”. No matter what it is you get that you think is going to make you happy I can promise you that in a very short time after you get it you’re gonna be well “Is that all there is? Is that all there is to that? You mean it’s not filling my life with joy?” Yes, that’s right it, it isn’t.

You have to bring happiness to life. You don’t get happiness out of life. What is there to be happy about? Nothing. When you can be happy about nothing. Just be happy. You know “I am happy” – those words are sacred. It’s like a declaration, it’s like a place from which I come, it’s like a stand I take upon myself. Its not I am pretending to be happy, it’s not I am acting happy.  No. I am happy!” – Werner Erhard



For many people, life seems to be a kind of brief candle hardly worth living. But for those who are bold, who are venturesome, who have the humility to deal with what is possible rather than what is predictable, life is an exciting and challenging adventure. Life is no brief candle to me. In a world that can work for everyone, especially in which I can make a difference—that is a life worth living! That is living! That is being alive!”

-Werner Erhard